"Three more things about critics and criticism, Walker. First, many critics are cowards. Not only do they snipe at lives that they are unwilling to live themselves, but they’ll mouth off for years and never once have the courage to sit down with you, face to face, and tell you what they think. If you let them direct what you do, you are turning your life over to cowards.
Second, as with all fears, we have a tendency to imagine the worst. I like how Thomas Jefferson put it: “How much pain have cost us the evils which have never happened!” Are you going to let what someone might say prevent you from doing what you must do?
Finally, of course there is such a thing as constructive criticism. Everyone likes to say that they are offering constructive criticism. But you know what’s really constructive? Work. There are simple standards for measuring the worth of people’s critiques. Do they actually care about you? Do they just talk at you, or are they willing to sweat with you? Have they put any effort into what they are saying to you? Someone who cares about you, sweats with you, and corrects you when you need to be corrected is one of the most precious things in life:
a true friend."
The Flying Dojo - a group of “friends”?
From the book: Resilience by Eric Greitens